Answers to 3 Couples Therapy Questions
There are some common couples therapy questions many couples have.
- For some couples, finding a couples therapist is a new experience for them. They have never been to a marriage counselor or couples therapist before and don’t know exactly where to turn or what to ask.
- Other couples may have been in couples therapy before and want to know how finding a new therapist could be different.
- Some couples are looking for a couples therapist to see one partner individually. The other partner might not be interested in couples work at this time.
There are many couples therapy questions that pertain to each of these categories of couples. This post will focus on the top three questions. If you have other questions that aren’t addressed on this post, please feel free to contact me.
Important Couples Therapy Questions #1
What is a couples session like? What can I expect?
Couples therapy with me is focused on the needs of you both as a couple. The first session will focus on what brings you into therapy at this time. And will focus on gathering information about your relationship history. Sessions will then move into specific relationship dynamics between you both.
For couples that have been to therapy before – all of the above will occur during our first session, in addition, we will talk about what worked well for you both during that time. And what didn’t. This will help us learn more about your specific needs.
For individuals coming to therapy without their partner, in addition to the above, we will explore your specific relationship needs and changes envisioned.
Important Couples Therapy Questions #2
How long should we plan on going to therapy?
Common couples therapy questions most always include this question. The answer really depends on your specific needs and commitment as a couple.
Generally speaking, if I’m working with a couple on a weekly basis, and each member of the couple is committed to the work they are doing, typically these couples report seeing change within 6 weeks to 3 months.
Important Couples Therapy Questions #3
How do we know if the therapist we pick is a good fit for us?
When looking for a couples therapist, it’s a good idea to contact them via phone to ask them about any questions you have. And to also ask them how they will work with you as a couple. A therapist trained in couples therapy should be able to talk with you directly about how they will work with you and address your needs.
Trust yourself. Allow yourself to trust your initial impression. And trust your gut.
Look at how well did they listen to your questions or concerns while talking over the phone. Did they answer your questions in a way that was clear and helpful? These are some things to consider…
By: Anna McElearney, LMFT, LPC, NCC
*Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only.
