Tip: How To Make My Marriage Work
As a marriage counselor and couples therapist, I’m often asked by couples what the secrets are to making marriages work. People are eager to know and want help with:
“How to make my marriage work?”
Where to start…
When asking the important question of “how to make my marriage work?” here’s a tip that can begin creating and altering the foundation your relationship is built upon.
Tip 1: How to make my marriage work
- Is your partner or spouse the first to know of all matters of importance?
When something happens in your day or if something occurs that impacts you, is your spouse or partner the first one you call to tell?
Or, is your spouse number 2, 3, 4, … after friends, family members, co-workers, etc.?
Consider the importance of making your spouse or partner the first to know. The first to know about you. The first to know about matters that are important to you. About matters that are important to the both of you.
Here’s a hypothetical example:
John’s work is relocating to a new location two streets away from where he currently works. He hadn’t told his wife about this until they were at a dinner party and some colleagues were talking about it.
John’s wife was overhearing this for the first time and felt angry that she hadn’t known. She was angry that John didn’t tell her. Angry that she had to hear about it from other people at a dinner party.
In this hypothetical example, this is just one example of the many ways this can look. This example might seem insignificant but when this happens over and over, it can start impacting the relationship.
It can start eroding the foundation from which your relationship is built.
But, you can take steps toward change.
Help is available…
If you’re trying all you know how but are still feeling distant from one another and still having a difficult time talking to each other. Help is available.
Consider contacting a couples therapist or marriage counselor for help.
*Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only.
