Daily Choices for a Healthy Long Lasting Marriage
I wanted to spend some time talking about daily choices for a healthy long lasting marriage. These are daily choices that at times, might not be the thing you’re wanting to do in the moment. In fact, it could be furthest from it. But, if the intention is there – within you – to commit to daily choices that can impact the quality of your marriage – then marriage counseling might be a wonderful addition to the health of your relationship.
Here’s what marriage counseling is not though…This isn’t about making your marriage into a fairytale movie…
It’s really about making intentional and mindful choices for a healthy long lasting marriage. One that is meaningful and special for each of you.
When you are in the thick of it with your spouse. When you are not talking or listening to each other at all. And you feel that feeling come up within you that wants to “win!” Wants to criticize, cut them down, go on the defense, etc…when you’re feeling your blood start to boil and all you want to do is run away or yell…instead…in that moment, you choose to go toward your spouse in a way that says, I hear you’re frustrated, or I hear the pain in your voice (for example), I want to be here for you so that we can move through this together. What could you envision might happen?
How could this change the dance you both have been caught in for so long? How might this help you really know and care for each other….
This is what I can help you with during our marriage counseling sessions. How to turn patterns that are keeping you stuck into daily choices for a long lasting healthy marriage.
Couples that see me are often caught in patterns that are keeping them from reaching for each other in the most important times. When what they really want/need is comfort, companionship, understanding, and care but instead are caught in a cycle of attack/blame/defend/withdraw…
This is where I can help. Through the lens of what is called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, we will get to the heart of what’s happening within and between each of you that’s contributing to these unhealthy patterns. And together, we will move you toward a way of talking, responding and listening to each other that brings you closer together.
Please don’t wait any longer to get the marital help you’re looking for. Reach out today.
*Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only.