Marriage Strengths are Important
Many couples when first starting couples therapy or marriage counseling have many marriage strengths that can get missed. It can be hard to remember what strengths you have together when times are rough. When you’re not communicating well and can’t see eye to eye.
But, there likely are strengths that have pulled you through stressful times before and have flourished during light hearted fun times.
What are Your Marriage Strengths
How to begin identifying your marriage strengths:
- First, identify your own strengths
Sometimes beginning with ourselves is a positive first step. Then you can begin to look at:
- Your spouse’s individual strengths that you appreciate and admire
Then you can move into becoming aware of:
- What do you like about your marriage
- What do you both do really well together
- Do you have fun together / Can you play together
- Do you show appreciation for each other
- Are you open to accepting one another’s apology after a disagreement
As you begin to develop your awareness toward marriage strengths that exist in your marriage or relationship, you can begin to move into becoming aware of how these strengths help you:
- During stressful times
- De-escalate arguments
- Resolve and repair disagreements
- Manage various emotions
Building Marriage Strengths
Identifying your marriage strengths can strengthen your emotional connection and bond with each other. Especially when you begin to see all of the strengths that you both have individually and as a couple.
When times are difficult, it can be hard to focus on the good resources you have together. But, if you can begin to examine this, it can help pull you through the hard times. Together, you can focus on identifying and overcoming the particular stressors instead of seeing each other as the enemy.
Building your marriage strengths can help you feel more unified. Together as team.
One of the ways I can help
One of the ways I help couples is by identifying strengths in their relationship. Many couples find relief when they become aware of the resources they currently have together.
They begin to move into a mindset that these strengths are available to them at any time.
By: Anna McElearney, LMFT, LPC, NCC
*Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only.
