The Relationship Cure
Have you read the book: The Relationship Cure? I recently read Dr. John Gottman’s book: The Relationship Cure – 5 Steps Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family and Relationships.
Dr. John Gottman is an expert at studying what makes relationships work and what factors can contribute to a relationship ending. I have taken Dr. Gottman’s Level I training for Couples Therapy and believe in the concept of bids for emotional connection as he talks about in his book, The Relationship Cure.
This is an excellent book for anyone wanting to learn more about how bids for connection impact your relationships. I’ve written before about bids for connection and how sometimes these bids can easily be missed by our spouses or partners.
Here’s a link to improving your relationship through recognition, receiving and attuning to bids in your relationship. The link is a blog post I wrote focusing on bids for emotional connection.
Back to the book…
The Relationship Cure
The Relationship Cure goes deeper into what bids are, what they look like, responses to bids, and exercises you can do.
It’s a great read if you’re wanting to improve your relationship through learning more about the subtle ways we offer opportunities for connection with our mates.
Before becoming a therapist specializing in couples therapy and marriage counseling, I never heard of bids for emotional connection before. So, it was new to me when I began my training as a Gottman Level I trained couples therapist.
Once I started digging deeper into the topic and learning more about all the ways we offer bids – to our spouses, to our friends, to family members, co-workers, etc. I was intrigued at how often we are in a state of offering connection with others.
So, from this perspective, I think it’s an interesting book and one I would recommend.
I recommend it because it can offer new ways of looking at your interactions – all of your interactions. Those with your significant other and also other people in your life. And provides opportunities for insight and reflection.
By Anna McElearney, LMFT, LPC, NCC
Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only.
