Marriage Counseling Questions to Ask Your Spouse Before Scheduling an Appointment

Before calling a marriage counselor, here are some marriage counseling questions to discuss with your spouse to see if marriage counseling is right for you. This is an important subject. There's research that found many couples wait at least six years before getting the relationship help they need. Please don't wait any longer to get the help you are looking for. Here are some marriage counseling questions to explore with your spouse. Open up dialogue around current or recurrent struggles you both have been having. Or dialogue around where you are feeling stuck in your relationship. Ask your spouse:

Would you be open to seeing a neutral third party to help us get through this rough time in our marriage? We have tried to do this ourselves but we aren't seeing the changes we both want. Would you be interested in looking for a couples therapist with me? Maybe we can find two or three we both select and we can contact them to see which could be the best fit for us?

Another question:

What do you think our main issues are? Would you feel comfortable talking about these with a professional therapist? If we saw a therapist, what do you hope to get out of it?

Additional discussion:

What do you want out of our relationship? What do you want our future to look like? Would you be willing to commit to couples therapy sessions to see if we can communicate better and help get us to the future we envision?

Marriage Counseling Questions Around Transition

Sometimes, transitions in couples lives can be extremely stressful and difficult. Couples therapy and marriage counseling can help couples adjusting to transition. Some examples include:

Becoming parents
Losing a loved one
Getting a new job
Losing a job
Moving
Health related illness

If you and your spouse are having a hard time around transition, please consider seeing a marriage counselor. Therapy can help you both develop better communication, rebuild trust, and create greater intimacy. Talk with your spouse about what you're feeling around a particular transition in your life. Talk about its impact on both of you. And if you both decide you need support and help during this time, help is available.

By: Anna McElearney, LMFT, LPC, NCC *Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only.